Have you ever walked in to the office or a get-together with friends or family and had a person say to you with great concern, “You really look tired today!” Even though you may have been feeling relatively perky before that instance, unexpectedly you actually DO feel tired and rundown. The words we speak to one another and also the ways in which we interpret them are meaningful. So, when speaking with people who have an acute health condition, it is essential that you carefully consider what to express, and perhaps more importantly, what NOT to say to a loved one in crisis.
While we are most certainly well meaning, there are specific sentiments which are better left unsaid. Making a less-than-sensitive remark, according to Mindy Beth Lipson, a Phoenix psychologist, occurs because, “I think people are just scared and nervous and don’t know how to respond. There might be several reasons, the first being it brings up their own mortality. Some people also just lack empathy.”
Following are several statements to remove from your vernacular when speaking with individuals faced with a health crisis:
Your absolute best bet is always to allow the individual the opportunity to talk about (or not to share with you) his / her experience and emotions, hold the individual's hand if it is welcome, give a bright bouquet of flowers or other small present or treat, and just provide your warm, loving presence and support.
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